Seeing a loved one affected by dementia can be upsetting for anyone, but it can be especially tricky to navigate this conversation with younger members of the family. They may not completely understand what is happening or be aware of the physical and mental changes in their loved one. It can be frightening too for them to witness some of the behaviours associated with dementia – all of which requires gentle handling and explanation to little ones.
Dementia describes a collection of symptoms caused by disorders affecting the brain. It is not one specific disease. It can affect thinking, memory, behaviour and normal day-to-day life. In 2022, it is estimated that almost 400,00 people in Australia will have dementia, and is the second leading cause of death in Australia.
We understand the confusion and worries your son, daughter or grandchild may have, which is why we have put together some tips to make this conversation easier for everyone.
Keep the conversation simple
When it comes to explaining dementia, keep it age appropriate and use simple language. It might help to say “Grandma’s memory isn’t as good as it used to be, so we need to remind her of certain things.” This may help alleviate any overwhelming questions and thoughts your child may have on seeing their beloved grandparent struggle to remember simple things, like their name or age.
Preparation is key
We suggest talking to youngsters before visiting a family member or friend who has dementia, to help them understand the condition before seeing the loved one. This can help prepare them for the unexpected and brainstorm activities to do once you arrive, including alerting them to any changing mannerisms or behaviours without being caught off guard.
Use online resources to help you tackle tricky questions
The beauty of having our phones on hand is making the most of the many online resources that may help your child understand they’re not alone when dealing with this topic. Dementia Australia has a number of kid-friendly websites to help explain dementia and answer questions your child may have. Understanding dementia may be daunting for you too, and this resource will help you approach the topic in the best way possible.
Remind your children dementia is a condition
It’s important to remind your children that their loved one doesn’t love them any less because they have forgotten certain details about them and their life. Help your little ones understand that dementia is a condition that happens to some elderly people and is no one’s fault – certainly not theirs.
Focus on the positives
Bringing a scrapbook or a tech device filled with photos may help your child reconnect with their family member through sharing wholesome memories and conversations they may have forgotten along the way. This will also help your child reflect on happy memories with their loved one. People living with dementia sometimes have trouble with short term memory but are able to remember memories from a long time ago.
Karingal Green isn’t just an aged care home; it’s a health community where residents’ needs are put first. We have a special dementia support wing to help meet all care requirements for those suffering from this condition. With exceptionally designed and executed living spaces and interiors, Karingal Green is an award-winning home, ready for you to call home. To find out more information or if you have any questions about your loved one and dementia support, contact us using the link below.